Matthew 19:6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
When you think about it, it’s pretty amazing to think of how God designed marriage between a man and a woman in order to bring 2 individuals together and make them 1 flesh. “Impossible!” You say but NOTHING is impossible with God! Not saying that the coming together of 2 separate lives into 1 is a fairy tale, it does have its challenges but it’s so worth it! Brian and I both are operating on a learning curve and a lot of God’s grace because this is totally new for us both.
A couple of the things that God convicted me of before Brian and I married was that I would take Brian’s last name, no hyphen. With that, I choose to also follow the tradition of my grandmother and aunts and kept my middle name instead of making my maiden name my middle name. In many cases, I believe that in holding to our maiden name be it via a hyphen or making it our middle name, we’re not really surrendering to the new life that we have in transitioning from a single to a spouse. I had some negative reactions to what I decided to do but when it all comes down to it, you have to do that of which you’re convicted and about which you have God’s peace. Another thing that I was convicted of years ago was something a wise man of God said about his marriage. He said that his wife and him are like the 2 blades of scissors and if anyone tried to come between them, they would get cut! Definitely something we all need to firmly grasp because our husbands are only to be 2nd to God even when children come into the picture.
I believe that us ladies have been fed a lie that if we take our husbands’ names, we will lose our identities but really we’re embracing that identity that we choose when we said, “Yes!” when our husbands proposed and “I do.” to the marriage vows. If we allowed them to get them to really know us before marrying, they love us for who we are and won’t ask us to lose that. So ladies, it’s okay to say, “Hi, I’m Mrs…!” you’re still you!
On a side note: It’s funny how I have to catch myself at times when I sign my name because I’ve had my maiden name for 39 years and my current last name for about 3 1/2 months. It takes time to get used to it but as one of my good friends shared with me today, she’s been married for several years, she still has to catch herself when signing things.
Mrs. Veronica L. Knack 🙂